This past weekend my husband and I had one of our cultural misunderstandings. Saturday was his birthday and I came home on Sunday from BEA. He asked me if he should get a cake for his birthday when he went to the store and I nodded my head enthusiastically for any occasion where I am given birthday cake is awesome.
My husband is Dutch, and birthdays are weird over there. He came home with birthday PIE. PIIIIIEEEE! But it was his birthday so I shut up and pushed the pie around on my plate and pretended to like it. The next day however, being deprived of my 5 million calorie goodness I asked him about cake. He had no idea that pie was not an acceptable substitute and generally had pie at his birthdays. Talking about it fixed the problem. He drove to the store and came home with a cake and now we are both happy with our desserts.
Talking to your agent is kind of like talking to the Dutch. They say cake, you think pie, and then the deal comes or doesn’t come and there is confusion and hurt feelings. When these situations arise and the cake is a lie (nerd reference FTW) it is best to hash it out and talk. Bottling up your feelings and misunderstandings puts a wedge between you and your agent.
I know talking to your agent may be scary. I have an agent as well (and she’s also my boss!) and talking to her about my books and stuff is incredibly hard. But each time I reach out I am reaffirmed that I made the right decision and I have the best agent in the world and then I go buy myself some cake because hey, she can’t do everything.