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		<title>By: Tif</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-2131</link>
		<dc:creator>Tif</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Mar 2010 14:19:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Here, here!!! I completely understand what you are saying and support you 100%!!  I&#039;ve been blogging for quite a while now and I&#039;m not in that &quot;in-crowd&quot; and I don&#039;t want to be. I want to talk books and have great conversation with others who want the same. It is that simple!! I don&#039;t want or need the other drama!!  :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Here, here!!! I completely understand what you are saying and support you 100%!!  I&#8217;ve been blogging for quite a while now and I&#8217;m not in that &#8220;in-crowd&#8221; and I don&#8217;t want to be. I want to talk books and have great conversation with others who want the same. It is that simple!! I don&#8217;t want or need the other drama!!  :)</p>
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		<title>By: Nymeth</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1791</link>
		<dc:creator>Nymeth</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 14 Feb 2010 10:21:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I never got the impression that you were unapproachable, Pam - quite the contrary. Having said that, I understand the need to pull back, to focus more on books and less on other stuff. That decision was made for me a few months ago due to some changes in my personal circumstances, and I think it did me good.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I never got the impression that you were unapproachable, Pam &#8211; quite the contrary. Having said that, I understand the need to pull back, to focus more on books and less on other stuff. That decision was made for me a few months ago due to some changes in my personal circumstances, and I think it did me good.</p>
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		<title>By: Serena (Savvy Verse &#38; Wit)</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1678</link>
		<dc:creator>Serena (Savvy Verse &#38; Wit)</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:16:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I really liked this post and I have to agree...there must be an in crowd, but I don&#039;t feel like I&#039;m in it or unapproachable either, but I have no idea how others perceive me.

I love your blog and hope to see more great reviews and discussions.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I really liked this post and I have to agree&#8230;there must be an in crowd, but I don&#8217;t feel like I&#8217;m in it or unapproachable either, but I have no idea how others perceive me.</p>
<p>I love your blog and hope to see more great reviews and discussions.</p>
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		<title>By: Debbie's World of Books</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1672</link>
		<dc:creator>Debbie's World of Books</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:53:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>LOL. I never thought of you as unapproachable.  You and Laura have always been great about sharing info and getting together here in the Bay Area.  

I do know what you mean about the &quot;in crowd&quot; but really like others mention it&#039;s like high school.  I&#039;ve had to pull back myself and not pay attention because really why stress out over it?  I have my own life and interests and don&#039;t want to get sucked into any drama.  I also think there are a group of people, the organizers, you mention that just have a natural tendency to want to plan things or formulate new ideas and they tend to gravitate towards one another.  I don&#039;t think they mean to exclude others but really if you are not able to participate on the same level it&#039;s hard to really fit in with them.

Book blogging for me was 1-for fun and 2-for trying to keep track of what I read.  The friendships I&#039;ve made are a big bonus but I didn&#039;t start my blog to try and be &quot;popular&quot; or one of those blogs that everyone knows.

Sorry for the long babble but yes I&#039;ve definitely cut back on the amount of time I spend on Twitter and other social networks.  I get on when I can but I&#039;m trying to focus more on my blogging and reading and commenting on other blogs of interest to me.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>LOL. I never thought of you as unapproachable.  You and Laura have always been great about sharing info and getting together here in the Bay Area.  </p>
<p>I do know what you mean about the &#8220;in crowd&#8221; but really like others mention it&#8217;s like high school.  I&#8217;ve had to pull back myself and not pay attention because really why stress out over it?  I have my own life and interests and don&#8217;t want to get sucked into any drama.  I also think there are a group of people, the organizers, you mention that just have a natural tendency to want to plan things or formulate new ideas and they tend to gravitate towards one another.  I don&#8217;t think they mean to exclude others but really if you are not able to participate on the same level it&#8217;s hard to really fit in with them.</p>
<p>Book blogging for me was 1-for fun and 2-for trying to keep track of what I read.  The friendships I&#8217;ve made are a big bonus but I didn&#8217;t start my blog to try and be &#8220;popular&#8221; or one of those blogs that everyone knows.</p>
<p>Sorry for the long babble but yes I&#8217;ve definitely cut back on the amount of time I spend on Twitter and other social networks.  I get on when I can but I&#8217;m trying to focus more on my blogging and reading and commenting on other blogs of interest to me.</p>
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		<title>By: heidenkind</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1671</link>
		<dc:creator>heidenkind</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:45:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Pam, I don&#039;t think you&#039;re unapproachable at all!  You&#039;ve always been one of the friendliest bloggers I talk to.  I think some people just have their own insecurities (I&#039;m guilty of this as well) and that&#039;s why they feel intimidated by other bloggers.

I can understand wanting to pull back a bit from blogging or refocus more on certain things.  I think I&#039;ve been doing a bit of that this last month, too--social networking can take over your life if you let it.  Or at least that&#039;s the way it feels like sometimes. :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Pam, I don&#8217;t think you&#8217;re unapproachable at all!  You&#8217;ve always been one of the friendliest bloggers I talk to.  I think some people just have their own insecurities (I&#8217;m guilty of this as well) and that&#8217;s why they feel intimidated by other bloggers.</p>
<p>I can understand wanting to pull back a bit from blogging or refocus more on certain things.  I think I&#8217;ve been doing a bit of that this last month, too&#8211;social networking can take over your life if you let it.  Or at least that&#8217;s the way it feels like sometimes. :)</p>
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		<title>By: Michelle</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1670</link>
		<dc:creator>Michelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:30:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Pam, I don&#039;t think you&#039;re unapproachable at all but I admit I understand the feeling you&#039;re expressing.  I don&#039;t think people intend to be cliquish, I think in general most gravitate towards their friends and socialize with them (we know this is true in life everywhere not just social media) and don&#039;t realize they might be excluding others.  I&#039;m sure I&#039;m guilty of it myself at times.

In the end I think all any of us can do is to hopefully be inclusive, maintain the friendships we&#039;ve created and blog the way we feel most comfortable blogging.  If you feel like how you&#039;ve been interacting here and in social media outlets works for you don&#039;t let anyone tell you differently.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Pam, I don&#8217;t think you&#8217;re unapproachable at all but I admit I understand the feeling you&#8217;re expressing.  I don&#8217;t think people intend to be cliquish, I think in general most gravitate towards their friends and socialize with them (we know this is true in life everywhere not just social media) and don&#8217;t realize they might be excluding others.  I&#8217;m sure I&#8217;m guilty of it myself at times.</p>
<p>In the end I think all any of us can do is to hopefully be inclusive, maintain the friendships we&#8217;ve created and blog the way we feel most comfortable blogging.  If you feel like how you&#8217;ve been interacting here and in social media outlets works for you don&#8217;t let anyone tell you differently.</p>
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		<title>By: RRRJessica</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1669</link>
		<dc:creator>RRRJessica</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 12:25:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I came over from Katiebabs&#039; post. I&#039;m sorry you are dealing with unpleasantness. If it helps your mood, I wanted to comment just to say I think this is the best looking book blog I have ever seen.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I came over from Katiebabs&#8217; post. I&#8217;m sorry you are dealing with unpleasantness. If it helps your mood, I wanted to comment just to say I think this is the best looking book blog I have ever seen.</p>
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		<title>By: The Kool-Aid Mom</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1667</link>
		<dc:creator>The Kool-Aid Mom</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 11:01:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>OMG, you&#039;re unapproachable? Crap, I didn&#039;t know.  If I had known that I might not have tweeted to you or commented here... LOL.  I&#039;m always in the dark on these things.

Seriously, though, I know what you mean about the whole &quot;in-crowd&quot; in blogging and am with you that that is just too High School for me.  I doubt, or at least hope, that those &quot;in-crowders&quot; don&#039;t think that of themselves, either.

I love what you do, and think you add another dimension to the blogging world.  I&#039;m enjoying the POC Reading Challenge :-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>OMG, you&#8217;re unapproachable? Crap, I didn&#8217;t know.  If I had known that I might not have tweeted to you or commented here&#8230; LOL.  I&#8217;m always in the dark on these things.</p>
<p>Seriously, though, I know what you mean about the whole &#8220;in-crowd&#8221; in blogging and am with you that that is just too High School for me.  I doubt, or at least hope, that those &#8220;in-crowders&#8221; don&#8217;t think that of themselves, either.</p>
<p>I love what you do, and think you add another dimension to the blogging world.  I&#8217;m enjoying the POC Reading Challenge :-)</p>
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		<title>By: Jackie (Farm Lane Books)</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1653</link>
		<dc:creator>Jackie (Farm Lane Books)</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:44:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I love the idea of some people getting a &quot;reputation for ridiculousness.&quot; LOL!!

I have no idea what the latest twitter scandal is. I&#039;m normally only on twitter in the morning and since I live in the UK most of the US is in bed. This means that I miss out on much of the gossip. Everything is very civilised in the morning!

I&#039;m sorry to hear that you&#039;ve had some nasty comments, but pleased that you are rising above it. I have always found you approachable and your blog is great. Keep up the good work and ignore all that bad feeling.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I love the idea of some people getting a &#8220;reputation for ridiculousness.&#8221; LOL!!</p>
<p>I have no idea what the latest twitter scandal is. I&#8217;m normally only on twitter in the morning and since I live in the UK most of the US is in bed. This means that I miss out on much of the gossip. Everything is very civilised in the morning!</p>
<p>I&#8217;m sorry to hear that you&#8217;ve had some nasty comments, but pleased that you are rising above it. I have always found you approachable and your blog is great. Keep up the good work and ignore all that bad feeling.</p>
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		<title>By: Pam</title>
		<link>http://bookalicio.us/2010/02/pulling-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1650</link>
		<dc:creator>Pam</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Feb 2010 06:39:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks so much for all of your comments. I had a really hard look at myself when I got those comments and I deserved them for sure. I am all up on Twitter still for all the book stuff. I just need to focus more on my blog than on the conversational stuff I have been doing. I am online way too much. Whenever the kids are sleeping really.

There is not an &#039;in crowd&#039; in the sense of meanness but there are people who SEEM to feel like they are better than others and I just don&#039;t want others to think that of me. I can make a big list of all the cool crap I do for charity but that is just lame, or a list of all the times I have reached out to help a fellow blogger, again lame. 

I am glad to have met on and some offline everyone of you that have commented here. I really didn&#039;t expect any comments ;) I think its burn out time. I need to do something else. Write reviews, read books. I also want to do more than just YA on the blog. I read a lot more than that... I almost took a Pub job and I am speaking all over in the industry. It&#039;s time for me just to be a blogger again for a while...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks so much for all of your comments. I had a really hard look at myself when I got those comments and I deserved them for sure. I am all up on Twitter still for all the book stuff. I just need to focus more on my blog than on the conversational stuff I have been doing. I am online way too much. Whenever the kids are sleeping really.</p>
<p>There is not an &#8216;in crowd&#8217; in the sense of meanness but there are people who SEEM to feel like they are better than others and I just don&#8217;t want others to think that of me. I can make a big list of all the cool crap I do for charity but that is just lame, or a list of all the times I have reached out to help a fellow blogger, again lame. </p>
<p>I am glad to have met on and some offline everyone of you that have commented here. I really didn&#8217;t expect any comments ;) I think its burn out time. I need to do something else. Write reviews, read books. I also want to do more than just YA on the blog. I read a lot more than that&#8230; I almost took a Pub job and I am speaking all over in the industry. It&#8217;s time for me just to be a blogger again for a while&#8230;</p>
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